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the first was about a person who threw a party and invited all their friends. the party was going well until their rude and obnoxious neighbor brian showed up. brian annoyed the guests, so the host threw him out and then went back to the party. but brian sneaked back in and the host had to kick him out again. at this point the host decided that in order to keep brian out, he should stand by the front door and watch it carefully. this kept brian out, but the host was sad that he had to miss the party. i didn't really get this metaphor. my therapist had to explain to me that brian represents bad feelings, i'm the party host, and the guests are positive life experiences. the moral of the story is supposed to be that if i worry too much about avoiding bad experiences, i won't get to enjoy the good ones either. the second video was about a man who drove a bus. every day he drove the bus along the same route, which he hated. sometimes he thought about driving on a different road, but he had a bunch of rowdy passengers in the back who would yell mean things at him whenever he tried. to avoid being yelled at, the driver made a deal with one of the passengers. she agreed to keep the loud passengers quiet, but in exchange, he had to agree to keep driving the same route every day. so the bus was quiet, but the man was still sad. i liked this metaphor very much. i liked it because i do see my anxiety as a thing that exists because it serves a purpose. i don't know how much learning about why i feel the way i do actually helps me make better decisions. the bad thing you're experiencing is usually preferable to the other bad thing you might experience. i feel like i realize things that would be useful but i never do them because it's too hard. whenever i learn something new and then i have an opportunity to use it but i don't, i feel like i'm even more useless than before, because before i was just ignorant, but now i know better and i'm still making bad choices. my therapist says i've gotten better at things - being functional, she means. she says that it's impressive that i've managed to make it through half of college with a pretty good gpa, especially because in college people don't exert as much effort to make you do things as they did when you were in high school.
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