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when the second one was hospitalized my school had a kind of prayer service thing in the gym with music and i think maybe some of the student's friends said nice things about him and prayed that he would get better. it was very sad and lots of people were crying. anyway the reason i cried at that service was because it was the first time i realized that if i were dead or dying nobody would bother doing something like that for me. when something bad happens to a person, how the community and media and police react depends on what they think the person was like. when i first realized this i felt very cynical and selfish, because what i was really wishing was that someone would care enough to cry in public if something bad happened to me. of course as an adult i'm aware that this is totally a real thing, but also, as a person who's spent a lot of time thinking about what it'd be like if i died, it upsets me on a personal level still. i used to think that if i killed myself my friends would be relieved that they didn't have to deal with me anymore. i don't know if i still think that, but i also don't think anyone would be holding memorial services or candlelight vigils or anything. the most i could hope for is that whoever got the job of hauling my corpse out of the river or whatever would feel something other than mild inconvenience. i wish i didn't think about these things.
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